MORNING WORDPRESS!
I love how everyone totally forgot me… sigh…
I’ve decided that if I want to get writting I’d betters start practicing!
Today on Untapd’s ‘Ask Me Anything’
Jason Asks:
What is your opinion on beating your children for discipline? Many people argue that it is alright in moderation to discipline the child, whereas, others feel it is totally out of the question and abusive.
I would like to start of by thanking Jason for his insightful question… Thank you Jason, for your insightful question =P
My opinion is very firm, I believe it is absolutely -wrong- to beat your children for discipline. Children are children, if you raise them properly to begin with, there would be no need to beat them.
Children will be children, you can not expect perfection. They are occasionally going to say and/ or do some things you may not agree with. This doesn’t make them bad people.
When you beat a child, you may not scar them or bruise them on the surface, but the damage done goes deeper, it touches that which is naked to the physical eye.
Children do not and will not forget, any type of beating to discipline a child instills fear within him/her. This fear usually makes the child confused, angry, and vulnerable as they grow older and depending on how extreme the beating is, its effects may nor go away.
I say, raise your children properly to begin with, no one can be perfect, but a child needs time, patience, love, and education. You can’t expect a child to behave in a manner which you approve if you haven’t raised them that way. And even if they do, you need to unwind and remember that back in the day, you weren’t Mr/Ms. Goody Two Shoes either.
Until next time,
Untap’d
Some children do need an occasional swat on the backside. It shouldn’t be the only punishment or even the first choice. I was certainly one of those kids.
Hi TheDeeZone!
I think it is a personal preference, I’ve had a few myself and they never meant much, rather, they turned out to be funny memories later on.
But I’m talking about one extreme, beating your children for discipline is never and should never be a first resort, Amen!
Please note: Beating your children = giving them an upright nice hard slap on the rear end that leaves a permanent mark…
Beating your children does not = a slight fly weight tap on the hand…
Also, spanking and beating are not the same things.
I suppose that’s a personal definition, there are always people that will take a different route to a definition.
well children should not be beated on small things.this makes the child to loose its confidence and talent both.the child should not be harrased in front of others as its an isnult of him/her.
if child crosses the limits of descipline then he should be waarned thrice first if he doesnt hen beat him/her lightly(in such a way that the body of child doesnt get blue stains on it).im a pakistani student few yrs back i was in government school.in that school they use to bat up student with steel scales and long flexible pointer to do O’levels i shifted to another school.in new school the scenerio was totally opposit the students used to abuse teachers without any reason and if he tries to stop the teacher they used to beat him.now i have done O’levels but in last two years of my O’levels i was elected as Vice headboy among 1000 students.i was beated many times when i took the side of teachers.
i mean to say that neither too much strickness nor too much freedom should be given to children.
if we look at westren culture the governments have given the right of security if a child wants to go out and his parents stophim/her from going outside he calls cops(this is totally freedom) but if we look at subcontinent and its native countries parents use to beat up their children withuot any reason.
finally i wolud like to sum up my opinion in follwing words:
“Adopt a medium way,not much lossness granted to child and strickness applied to child.”